Today I discovered the work of Rachel W. Cole, and I adore this passage I found in a blog post she wrote a couple of years ago called “Self-Centered“:
“Self-centered women are not easily blown over by the gusts of other people’s opinions, agendas, or problems coming their way. Their strong center keeps them steady.
Self-centered women know themselves. Intimately. The smooth and the rough. Their ego and their Self.
Self-centered women don’t put others before themselves to the point that they have nothing left. In turn, they have more to give to everyone.
Self-centered women know life isn’t tit for tat. They can receive without “earning” it and they can give without expectation of reciprocation.
Self-centered women are powered sustainably from a renewable source, rather than from the validation, approval, and attention of outside and temporary sources.
Self-centered women are their own compass. Their own north-stars. They navigate these choppy waters as an eye in the storm. This is why we so often take refuge in their work, words, and presence.
They are lighthouses for the rest of us because they are lighthouses for themselves.”
May we all learn how to be a little more self-centered.
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