Today, in this week’s installment of my series dedicated to sharing some things I’ve found that help me to feel a little more comfortable when I”m having a Terrible, Horrible, Very Bad, No Good Day, I am REALLY excited to be hosting Lynne Morrell, EFT Practitioner and Personal Life Coach.
Lynne might already be familiar to you, as I have worked with her for almost 7 years now as my coach/mentor/energy worker/older sister/the one who busts me when I slip into being “a lying sack of shit”/person who gives me a good kick in the ass when I need it/and very, very dear friend, and have mentioned her approximately 8 billion times here on this blog.
Besides being incredibly, amazingly awesome at her job, wonderfully irreverent, and deeply compassionate, Lynne has also been dealing with a chronic illness for the past few years. So when I tell her that I feel like I’ve been dragged over asphalt, and then run over by a truck all night and that the pain is so bad that I expect flames to burst from my skin at any moment, she actually understands, all the way down to her bones, EXACTLY HOW I FEEL. There are no words that can express what a gift that is.
She has also helped me deal with the mental and emotional consequences of living with chronic pain and illness, and to shift the thoughts and stories I’ve been telling myself into new thoughts and stories that are more supportive and gentle.
For example, one of the things she reminds me of (even though it makes me want to punch her in the face when she says it :P) whenever I’m in a place like I just described is, “This is what having a chronic illness looks like.”
She also talks about how things like LOA, Abraham-Hicks, all that kind of stuff really can’t even be in the same conversation with me when I’m really sick. Instead, she talks about bridging the little gaps that are available to me at that time with question like, “What would make you feel a little bit more comfortable right now? and, “What would feel just a little bit more soothing and gentle?”
And one of the most helpful things I’ve learned from her is the fact that “Healing looks like a lot of different things.”
She wrote a fantastic post on this subject, and that is what I’d like to share as today’s Little Bit Of Soothing. I hope it helps things feel just a little bit gentler and softer as it has for me.
I am back from our fabulous vacation. My fella and I went to Carmel for a beautiful wedding and visited with many old friends. Then we cruised on up the road and stopped to play on our favorite beaches. We had a great time. The most amazing part of all of this, besides seeing old friends and being by the ocean, was that I was out of pain. No pain. None. Nada. All gone!!!
I was able to sit, walk, twirl, cartwheel, be in the sun, be in the heat, pick up luggage, put luggage down…oh my…the list goes on and on…it was fantastic.
*Note to self: Send surgeon a bouquet of flowers and my first born son as a thank you!
I am in awe that this nightmare is over. 5 years of pain. 5 YEARS!!!!! All gone…in a blink of an eye. Well, not really a blink of an eye….if so, that was a L-O-N-G blink!
But, I must say here…that I am one of the lucky ones…not everyone gets out of pain. How come me? and not all of the other folks I know and work with that have chronic pain? I don’t have the answer to that…all I can say is that healing looks like many things.
During my journey…healing took on many forms. During that 5 years, healing did not look like “no symptoms”. Just the opposite. Healing looked like many symptoms. Healing looked like despair. Healing looked like fear. Healing looked like hope. Healing looked like peace. Healing looked like watching a hellava lotta decorating shows. Healing looked like watching a ton of movies. Healing looked like tears and laughter.
It was resistance and it was being in the flow.
It was everything and nothing.
Healing takes on many forms.
It can be a very bumpy ride.
I am not just talking about healing physical blips. I am also talking about emotional wounds and traumas. Our lives are not linear and neither is our healing. So, where ever you are on this journey called life, I want to give you permission to find peace with where you are right now. This is not the same as staying where you are in your life. It is more about releasing the resistance to where you are….peace and resistance can’t live in the same place. If you have some peace…you have released some resistance. If you have much peace…you have released much resistance.
Once resistance has been softened, there is more room for your body and your heart to do what it does best.
What does it do best?
And remember….healing looks like many things.
(Copyright 2008, Lynne Morrell)