A couple of weeks ago I wrote about how I have giant Internet crush on the very cool Havi Brooks.
She is an expert in patterns and habits, specifically;
-how to gently and compassionately notice the patterns that are keeping you stuck
-how NOT to beat yourself up over the fact that you have patterns that keep you “stuckified”
-how to gather important information from these stuckified places
-and how to use that information to gently and easily create new patterns to get you where you actually want to be.
Havi has created a lot of great products to help us with our own, personal destuckification, and one of my favorites is her “Emergency Calming Techniques” kit, which includes
-a detailed e-book
-3 MP3 audios leading you through different calming techniques, according to whatever level of “freaking out” that you are currently experiencing (“emergency freakouts”, “when you need a dose of calm”, and a practice in “refining the art of calming down”)
-and an emergency “cheat sheet” for quick reference to the different calming techniques
One of the things I found most helpful about the e-book was the chapter that explains why, when we try a new personal growth technique, even if we’re really excited about it and committed to regularly practicing it in our everyday lives, it so often ends up not working for us. I can really relate to that right now, since I just spent this week gathering up all the programs I’ve personally bought over the past 7 years or so and then discarded. I want to clear out some space to try out some new things, and I was stunned to find that my “collection” takes up about a third of our den.
Of course, now that I’ve read this part of the e-book the explanation seems so obvious. But obviously it isn’t, as both my den and my credit card can attest. 😛
As Havi explains it, we humans are a complicated bunch, existing on a whole bunch of levels at the same time: physical, energetic, emotional, mental, and awareness. Yet most of us tend to hang out in the one or two levels that are most comfortable for us, and a great majority of the “helping” services and products that are out there are also specifically geared towards one, or maybe two levels at most.
But if we really want to make changes that work, and that last, we need to address our spots of “stuckification” on all the different levels. And that is what her e-book and her audios teach us how to do. First she gives a brief explanation of each of the five levels, and then she teaches you 10 Calming Techniques-5 you can perform “right out in the open”, and 5 to perform “behind closed doors”.
My favorite technique is called the Full Face Finger Flow, which combines activating certain pressure points on your face with specific calming, compassionate self-talk.
Which brings up a very good point: If you’re not really into anything “woo-woo”, or “wacky” (Havi’s word for it), this package probably isn’t for you. But it you enjoy exploring things like energy medicine (things like EFT and energy meridians) and self-actualizing techniques, I can’t recommend it highly enough. I have learned how to be so much kinder to myself by practicing these techniques, instead of automatically judging myself and beating myself up every time I bump up against a pattern or belief that is keeping me “stuckfied” and in pain. It’s really nice to know how to help myself in these situations, rather than just making myself feel worse.
If any of this feels like something that could help you get through your stuck spots a little bit more easily and gently, just click on the graphic at the top of this post, or you can click here.
And here’s to all of us learning how to be just a little bit kinder and gentler with ourselves.