Comments on: What Not To Say: Part 4 http://www.jennyryan.com/2008/08/21/what-not-to-say-part-4/ Entertaining stories from everyday life. Fri, 21 Nov 2008 04:36:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: crse http://www.jennyryan.com/2008/08/21/what-not-to-say-part-4/#comment-118562 Mon, 25 Aug 2008 02:34:55 +0000 http://www.jennyryan.com/2008/08/21/what-not-to-say-part-4/#comment-118562 Just so you know, you so did not drive me away although ive been out of the loop! I actually find this all very helpful (and affirming the belief that people can be complete ASSES) Keep it comin' sunshine! Just so you know, you so did not drive me away although ive been out of the loop! I actually find this all very helpful (and affirming the belief that people can be complete ASSES) Keep it comin’ sunshine!

]]> by: wendy http://www.jennyryan.com/2008/08/21/what-not-to-say-part-4/#comment-118555 Mon, 25 Aug 2008 00:01:08 +0000 http://www.jennyryan.com/2008/08/21/what-not-to-say-part-4/#comment-118555 i feel badly that you were hounded by the insensitive...it seems hard to believe that people can be so....well, big dunder-heads.............i promise not to one of those people if ever i'm in that situation.........which i am sure to be!! thanks, jenny. xoxooxxoox i feel badly that you were hounded by the insensitive…it seems hard to believe that people can be so….well, big dunder-heads………….i promise not to one of those people if ever i’m in that situation………which i am sure to be!! thanks, jenny. xoxooxxoox

]]> by: Square-Peg Karen http://www.jennyryan.com/2008/08/21/what-not-to-say-part-4/#comment-118529 Sun, 24 Aug 2008 17:21:33 +0000 http://www.jennyryan.com/2008/08/21/what-not-to-say-part-4/#comment-118529 oh MAN! the timing here - weird..i just found and listened to the cassette tape(yeah, we're talking a LONG time ago) from my son's funeral..beautiful stuff and it caused me to remember some wonderful support I got - but also brought back the memory of some twit (who should have known better - a minister!!!) who had prayed that god either make my son perfect "or take him home" - oh, hello sir - may i pray for your relative now? (he had a sick mama at the time and i soooo wanted to pray for HER in similar manner and see how he liked it..but instead i RAN..coz otherwise he'd be dead - see, god IS good..grin) so..all this stuff is running around in my head too..not just what other people have said..but my own dumbass comments..i LOVE that you are brave enough and willing enough to stand up and say this stuff...your middle name has GOT to be Queen Courageous...this is vital stuff..stuff we all need to know..the anger in it too, Jenny - anger in grief and in medical shit - who wants to hear it? we all seem to desire the "i'm on the mend" message..and NOT just because we love the person..but for our own relief.. namaste..i am sooooooooo honoring you woman - and you're doing this WHILE the medical shit continues..Again, your courage- and beauty and generosity of spirit to share this..i am so grateful and so blessed to know you. I love you, Jenny Ryan!!! I am so glad you are in the world - so incredibly honored to know you! oh MAN! the timing here - weird..i just found and listened to the cassette tape(yeah, we’re talking a LONG time ago) from my son’s funeral..beautiful stuff and it caused me to remember some wonderful support I got - but also brought back the memory of some twit (who should have known better - a minister!!!) who had prayed that god either make my son perfect “or take him home” -

oh, hello sir - may i pray for your relative now? (he had a sick mama at the time and i soooo wanted to pray for HER in similar manner and see how he liked it..but instead i RAN..coz otherwise he’d be dead - see, god IS good..grin)

so..all this stuff is running around in my head too..not just what other people have said..but my own dumbass comments..i LOVE that you are brave enough and willing enough to stand up and say this stuff…your middle name has GOT to be Queen Courageous…this is vital stuff..stuff we all need to know..the anger in it too, Jenny - anger in grief and in medical shit - who wants to hear it? we all seem to desire the “i’m on the mend” message..and NOT just because we love the person..but for our own relief..

namaste..i am sooooooooo honoring you woman - and you’re doing this WHILE the medical shit continues..Again, your courage- and beauty and generosity of spirit to share this..i am so grateful and so blessed to know you. I love you, Jenny Ryan!!! I am so glad you are in the world - so incredibly honored to know you!

]]> by: Square Peg http://www.jennyryan.com/2008/08/21/what-not-to-say-part-4/#comment-118344 Fri, 22 Aug 2008 16:58:45 +0000 http://www.jennyryan.com/2008/08/21/what-not-to-say-part-4/#comment-118344 Gosh, even I would not be daft enough to comment like this on one's treatment. And I'm considered to be an insensitive boob of a guy. Gosh, even I would not be daft enough to comment like this on one’s treatment. And I’m considered to be an insensitive boob of a guy.

]]> by: Lynne Morrell http://www.jennyryan.com/2008/08/21/what-not-to-say-part-4/#comment-118338 Fri, 22 Aug 2008 15:18:15 +0000 http://www.jennyryan.com/2008/08/21/what-not-to-say-part-4/#comment-118338 You tell em girl!!!! Yep, again it is this weird thing that people do when someone isn't well. I had a friend of mine with breast cancer and when she decided to do chemo and radiation...one person told her...and I am not kidding...that she should reconsider this because the treatment is so toxic. Uh....ya...I think this woman also told her to try rubbing rose oil on her breasts instead. Okay...well, if she ever gets cancer she can try the rose oil....I will support whatever she decides...but, she really freaked my friend out who got even more scared after that. PEOPLE...THINK before you start spouting this kind of crap to someone who is sick, vulnerable and scared!!!! JEEZ!!!! Hmmmmmm...I think I need to blog about this too...I am feeling a bit hot under the collar!!! You tell em girl!!!! Yep, again it is this weird thing that people do when someone isn’t well. I had a friend of mine with breast cancer and when she decided to do chemo and radiation…one person told her…and I am not kidding…that she should reconsider this because the treatment is so toxic. Uh….ya…I think this woman also told her to try rubbing rose oil on her breasts instead.

Okay…well, if she ever gets cancer she can try the rose oil….I will support whatever she decides…but, she really freaked my friend out who got even more scared after that.

PEOPLE…THINK before you start spouting this kind of crap to someone who is sick, vulnerable and scared!!!!
JEEZ!!!!

Hmmmmmm…I think I need to blog about this too…I am feeling a bit hot under the collar!!!

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